Based on popular definition, a FRIENEMY is an oxymoron and a portmanteau of “friend” and “enemy” that refers to “a person with whom one is friendly, despite a fundamental dislike or rivalry” or “a person who combines the characteristics of a friend and an enemy”.
How To Spot Them
Frenemies can be divided into different categories based on their behaviors:
When one person reaches out or meets another person only when they need help or a favor, they can be considered a one-sided frenemy to the latter person. This person doesn’t care about the life of the other person and doesn’t have any interest in what is going on with them. Also, they do not show up in time to meet the other’s need, so it is a one-sided relationship.
This type of frenemy insults their friend, makes fun of them, and cracks sarcastic jokes about them so frequently that it gets hard for them to tolerate. They disclose their secrets in public. So, that person will eventually start to hate this frenemy.
This kind of frenemy gets involved in their friend’s life in ways that they might not approve. They reach out to their family, friends or significant others in inappropriate ways without their permission to find something out. Their over-involvement bothers and irritates the friend.
Competitive Work Frenemy:
This kind of frenemy is basically a competitor to one person. Since they work in the same place or area, they behave well, make compliments and act as a well-wisher, but in reality, they never want something good to happen to the other. They never want the other to become more successful than them.
This kind of frenemy has both positive and negative qualities. Sometimes they can be helpful and polite but sometimes they also act in a selfish or competitive way.
Jealousy can turn friends into frenemies. A person may become jealous of their friends because of their raise, success, beauty, personality, humor, or social status.
When one does not know exactly the status or closeness of their friendship. For example, they are not sure if the other person likes them or not, if they are real friends or just business friends, or if they will consider inviting them to family programs.
They make mean remarks and give backhand compliments, but never directly to one’s face. They can leave a person feeling confused about whether they have done something wrong.
What To Do Next
Avoid the person/them kpatakpata. What did I say? AVOID THEM!
However, we seem to be frenemies to ourselves in this world. If you go through this article thoroughly, you will realize that you’re as well a frenemy to someone directly or indirectly.
Before I drop pen. I want you to do something. Place your right hand on your head and repeat after me.
“Oh God save me from Frienemies. Make nothing come dey join our destiny. Make nothing make me deal with their fallacies. Oh Lord, gimme bazooka and bomb wey go them scatter them from area. And if I’m a frienemy to anyone, make thunder fire me AMEN!”.