battling with drug and alcohol addiction says she divorced him three months ago and has remarried after waiting for years for
him to come out of his state. Rita shared her story in an
interview with Punch.
“I have remarried and I am moving on with my life. Jebose (Majek Fashek), when things
don’t go right, what do you do? I am tired of waiting for Majek. I have
been living for years, alone, lonely and with my children, waiting for
him to come home. I waited all these years; his brothers never cared. No
member of his family reached out to me. I am not getting any younger. I
decided to move on. Majek abandoned the children and me for so long,
too long. I am no longer Majek’s wife. I love him.
But I am not in love with him. Majek is a wonderful man. I am worried
and concerned about his life these times. He had been on this drug
dependency for over 15 years. We have three children; Randy is 30, Seun
is 24 and our last boy is 12. My children were denied affection of a
father by his illness and addiction. I have been the sole provider and
single mother of our household in the past 15 years since he chose this
lifestyle and walked away from us. I don’t know what went wrong with Majek.
I may never know. He is deep into substance abuse.
I discovered his
dependency on drugs and alcohol after the birth of our second son, Seun.
He would leave the house and return stoned, ultra-happy and erratic.
The signs began to manifest that Majek was on drugs. I was scared and
didn’t want to believe it. But everyday then, he continued to plunge
into serious drugs and alcohol experimentation. They became normal
recreation for him. This behaviour wasn’t right. So one morning, I
checked him into one of the hospitals in New York. This was 12 years
The hospital treated his addiction problems and he responded to
treatment, briefly. Days after he was released from the
treatment facility in New York, he was back on track on substance abuse.
He reconnected with his neighborhood friends and suppliers. Majekodunmi
would leave home for days and return to our apartment, soaked in dirt
and oozing of alcohol, behaving erratically, commanding and trying to
He took his musical instruments and sold them for drugs or
pawned some so as to get money to feed his desire for alcohol. I tried
to shield the children from his life but sometimes it was difficult,
especially when he lived, partly and by his choice, with us in our New
York apartment. He went and came randomly, never cared about how we
survived. One day, he came home and said, “Rita, I am going back home in
Nigeria, take care of my children.” He walked away and never came back,
until I came to Nigeria two years ago to help him get treatment. Majek
doesn’t have any money. I worked very hard to support my children and
him. That was what his addiction did to him and to our family.
seen everywhere in New York drunk, sometimes sleeping on the floor of
subway stations as he waited for the train home. When he returned home, I
would cook, clean and feed him. I had to take care of him. He was my
husband and also the father of my children. He was sick and his family
abandoned us. Before the illness, he was a wonderful man. Majek’s heart
is a pot of platinum. He is a very kind and loving person. He was a
great husband and lover. He cared very much for the children and I. We
felt his essence of fatherhood and husband whenever he was sober. Majek
did everything for me. He took care of me and treated me like a
superstar. These were the days when he was successful and a superstar in
Nigeria’s music scene. Whenever he went on music tour of Europe, Majek
would buy us boxes of clothes and everything else. Majek was the best
husband any woman could ever dream of. He was the best husband to me. He
was a charming lover. But his alcoholism and drugs addiction denied us
his love, care and humanity. I have been staying alone for years with
our children. He abandoned us. The children are grown now. I divorced
Majek three months ago. I had to move on with my life. I am not getting
any younger. I have remarried. My ex-husband is an alcoholic. I don’t
know how to help him. I did everything to make him get help. Only God
can help Majek. But we must not stop trying to make him seek the right
I don’t regret marrying Majek. No hard
feelings. He was always there for us. I thought this journey with him
would last forever, but I am tired of being lonely, alone and abandoned.
I will do anything and everything to help him get well. Two years ago, I
came to Nigeria to get help for Majek. I encouraged him to go with me
to a treatment facility I found in Badagry, in the outskirts of Lagos.
He agreed and I got him admitted and I paid for his treatment. He was
responding to treatment. Few weeks into the treatment, this lady that
claimed to be his manager, came to the treatment centre, had sex with
him and convinced Majek to check out of the facility. He did. I cried
when he called and told me that he had checked out with his manager. I
spent so much money to get him treatment. She doesn’t care for Majek. My
ex-husband needs help. I plead with Nigerians to help us as we begin
another attempt to rescue him from the streets of Lagos and from his
addictions to substance abuse. It will require money to put him in a
professional treatment facility; hence we have set up an appeal fund to
help raise money for Majek’s treatment.”she said.